Learning to enjoy your own company can be more challenging than most realize, but finding contentment with your own company can also provide a sense of peace and empowerment. Doing things on your own, as trivial as it sounds, can often be intimidating and out of an individual’s comfort zone.
This is something I had to learn to do the hard way. Nearly 3 years ago I moved from my small, comfortable hometown of Owensboro, KY to Louisville. Although Louisville isn’t a huge city, it is much larger than where I am from and needless to say I was a bit intimidated. The first year was pretty rough, as I had gone through a recent break up and didn’t really have a group of friends here yet. As challenging as that first year was (and there were many homesick, teary-eyed nights), it was probably the most transformative year of my life, as I learned to be truly independent.
This is not the “I moved out of Mom & Dad’s independence” – but the I am comfortable and happy with my own company kind of independence. My experience with forced solitude pushed me out of my comfort zone and challenged me to do things on my own without companionship, which in turn gave me an amazing feeling of empowerment. This period of time has also pushed me to look inwardly at the things I like about myself, as well as the things I need to improve upon.
So with that I wanted to share that from my experience, the best way to learn to be alone is to just push yourself to try new things and see what you learn. Here is a list of a few of my favorite alone time activities:
- Enjoy a spa day getting a manicure/pedicure.
- Go buy yourself an outfit that makes you feel beautiful.
- Enjoy a picnic at a park under a nice shade tree.
- Read a book.
- Plant a garden, or if you don’t have a yard plant some potted plants.
- Go for a bike ride – if you don’t have one, rent one.
- Volunteer to walk the dogs at your local animal shelter.
- Volunteer your time to a local charity you’re passionate about.
- Grab your camera and go take interesting pictures around town.
- Learn to cook a new dish.
- Spend the day hiking in nature.
- Take yourself to a nice dinner at a new restaurant.
- Organize your closet and drawers.
- Learn a new skill (photography, sewing, cooking – there are classes in every town if you look).
- Take a yoga class.
- Make time for exercise and join a gym.
- Go on a road trip to a nearby town.
- Join a group to meet new people (I joined the Junior League of Louisville).
- Take yourself to see a new movie at the theater.
- Make time for journaling.
- Spend some time meditating.
- Make up a dance – if your home alone there’s no one there to judge you lol.
- Think of a random act of kindness and then go do it to make someone’s day.
- Go to the farmer’s market – there’s one in every town.
- Clean out your refriderator.
- Spend a day nesting in bed watching your favorite Netflix series.
- Explore your local public library.
- Enjoy a day at a local art, history or science museum.
- Visit a local tourist hot spot that you’ve never been to – here in Louisville it’s bourbon tours!
- Make a list of personal goals.